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Breakfree

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All I ever wanted was freedom

the freedom of expressing my thoughts

the freedom to explore

the freedom to be on my own

the soul in me is chained

branded as good

was so harmful

when one day I decided to get naughty and mischevious

the thoughts led me to a different world

the world that let me live a secret life

the scars became the beauty spots in me

my eyes became the path to me

I felt I was inviting attention all over

even though I pretended to be happy

I portrayed a different me to others

I justified myself saying It was all I ever needed

the whole me was changed

I felt powerful and strong

the thoughts led me to live the freedom I gained

It was then I decided there was no hiding away

expressing what I ever felt turned to be my strength

Freedom added wings to my dreams

to wander off from my monotonous life to a life to fulfill my wishes.

It was fun when I realised ” If you are a bird, you need to fly away, rather than walk”.

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I hate Goodbyes

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I am not so good at goodbyes.

Some partings …are helpful. ;)…and easy to say ..because its just getting rid of people…but some good byes are painful…because we don’t want to part with our loved ones.

My lovely lil daughter , is realizing the parting dilemmas , she is in a stage now to realize what exactly  ‘good byes’ mean. I have noticed  that , whenever she is back from her school,, and bids good byes to her friends , she hated it so much. She never wanted to be away from them, but later on things changed, she realized that its not a leave taking , but a small bye for a short time and she will be meeting them again. 

Later she started to take such things lightly and enjoyed waving her hands to her friends to say good bye and meet them again later. Whenever her dad leaves for office , earlier she enjoyed to wave him bye-bye , but now , she knows that those bye-byes…. are meant for a little longer time for him to come back, ,and she will not get him to play with ,and now she likes to wait for her dad to be back home , she keeps checking the footsteps and keep asking me “who is coming” and waits for me to tell her that its her dad.

The same magic applied, ‘the wait for something ‘, when her grandparents left, we told her ,, in order for her to chat with them again, they have to go and so she consoled herself . 

Its so appreciative to see kids admire people in their life and value them.

 

 

Bed time story

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For past few days , a story has become an unavoidable thing in our bedroom before sleep.

Earlier , when every other parents used to say that, we need to read out a story to our kids , its good for them . Everyone  told me that there were few benefits like ,the first and the foremost kids sleep early , secondly they learn many things through stories and as such many more.

I too thought that , its best way to put her to sleep , I kept trying for many months , and the outcome was total waste of my sleep , because instead my daughter ,it was me who was getting sleepier.

The moment I start to read out a book for her, she snatches it from me and start looking at the pictures and do not allow us to put off the lights until she finishes looking at it at least 5 times  over n over .Then I realized that book was not a good enough idea , so another idea popped up that I will memorize a few stories n tell her.

As I was not a good story teller , I couldn’t memorize or tell her any kind of stories  and it all ended up in a total mess. As such my imagination doesn’t work that well at night especially when am off to bed . I was so ashamed ,that what a mom I was ? Can’t even tell a story to her .So as usual I stopped thinking about it , because , it never gave me any conclusion other than am a failure in story telling. 

I decided not to force her, but one afternoon, as she was watching her favorite stories in TV , I noticed that she was concentrating on the narration ,so I quickly checked out the story, its kind of , I got used to those stories now , as they were being played at least fifty times in our house. That night I told her a story and she slept listening to it , if even I paused , she asked me why did I stop, so I understood she was interested and it made me more happy.

One thing I learnt was that , trying to force something on kids doesn’t help , better is to wait and watch , when the time comes , they will surely follow what we wanted them to do. 

Joy of Cooking

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In my early years , I always hated the idea of cooking and was rather interested in eating whatever my mom cooked.

I thought marriage was dangerous , as I will have to cook all the time and the worst of all what will be the condition of who eats it. But who can stop the destiny , I got married . 😦 , them the initial stage of cooking was like all trial and error , as I wasn’t sure what to make and how to make and as all newly weds have  , I too had lot many confusions in my mind.

Luckily , in some or the other way , some dishes came out well , so I was kind of relaxed ,but always got tensed when I had guests at home. Cooking was kind of curiosity , until I see a smile from my husbands face after he has the first bite of it , I am always worried ,since he checks whether the food is appetizing . I am thankful for that , he was the one who motivated me in cooking , as all other people , I too loved to be praised for what i did. 🙂

And now cooking has become a passion, as I wanted to make something always special for my daughter. I love to see her eat what I cook and when she says “its delicious mama ” , I am happy. That is more than any other appreciation I have ever received. 

I was someone , who hated the idea of cleaning and cooking , but now am someone who insist to do it, as I don’t want her to learn bad things from me and I have to set a good example for her .

Children learn from what we do , rather than what we tell them , they should do.

Memories

 

Can anyone memorize all things that happened in their life ? Am sure that most powerful memories out of them will be the worst and the extremely happiest ones , where we almost had a rush of adrenaline. 🙂

Its not that some people ( especially women , who memorizes dates too ) have strong memory power, its just that , they all have strong feelings attached to it. How does parents never forget their kids birthday , or even their exact feeling when their kids were born . its because they have the strongest memory of the things happened.

When there is an interest and an enthusiasm to do any thing in life, that memory stays forever with us. Even when we work harder to reach our goal, that brings a special happiness in us, how can someone forget that?

Its the same with heartbreaking memories too, mostly we humans can memorize all worst feelings rather than the best in our life.Its up to us to how we deal with worst memories, either avoid such things to happen again , or else , learn from it.

Sometimes remembering is easier ,and forgetting them are tougher. 🙂