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Parenting is sharing responsibilities

Everything you do for your child should be done together.

The beauty of doing it together makes the sharing and caring double and the child benefits from the love of his/her parents. The child who is loved truly by the parents are the happiest ones. The confidence and the positiveness that the child projects is the complete evidence of the love in the family.

Childcare is not only a woman’s responsibility. Parenting is not a task done by a mother alone. A father and mother have equal responsibility. We have so far gone through many cases where only the woman is directed to do, and the men become the bread winner. Little do they realize that childcare is supposed to be a sharing responsibility.

The growing cases of postpartum depression are mainly due to the increasing negligence of the men to help their spouse to handle a newcomer in the family. People think a woman can handle the responsibility of a mother, but everyone needs a helping hand.

Actually, a woman should stop pretending for being some super woman . I am tired of being watching the super woman ads in the TVs. Throwing a different ideology. Why can’t girls be normal, do things what they like than being a super nova or something?

I guess I need to teach my kids to take it slow and live a stress-free life. Every kid should be taught to do the same, be happy and be content with what they are . Parenting is the one way to usher that, When both parents work together to help their own child, the child understands that for everything a man and the woman has to shoulder each other rather than compete.

We are not in the world of competing for each other to be a great mom or a great dad. No one is perfect ,so sharing the responsibility will improve the bonding of the family rather than breaking it and make it appear like a race. And finally, the stressed out family points fingers at each other.

To have a better life, everyone needs to share responsibilities rather than burdening one person. It’s the same with sharing your expenses in the family too , helping your man to earn well and save rather than stress in their jobs too.

You do… I too do the same

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My lil daughter is following that pattern now, imitating her dad and her mom.

She wants to wear the same kind of slippers that I wear and says ” Mama..matching matching ” .The whole day when she is with me, she wears that, once her dad enters home, she needs to wear slippers something similar to her dad.She does not even let him remove it and sit anywhere, all time it should be on his legs ( poor her dad).

When am cooking , she looks at me and tries to copy exactly what I do , like if am stirring something in the pan, she too does the same. If I stand leaning on to the table , she does the same… it’s so lovely and cute to see them do all these. 

In bad sense I meant , many times when I get angry on her, for her mischievousness , I raise my hands to show her that I would beat her, and I noticed that , she does the same to her doll , while she was playing with it. I felt sad, bad and totally lost, and didn’t know what to do. The act I did was killing me inside , I felt I should not have done it, and I have to correct it.Now whenever I get angry , I try to control ,myself , not to enact such silly mistakes.

Kids learn a lot from us, even though we don’t teach them as such, they tend to learn from what they see around.As parents , we need to be quite sure what words we use, what actions we show and many more.