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MY LIFE IS THE CANVAS, WHICH THEY COLOURED WELL

This week we were given pictures and had to write on that basis. I was given this:

And it brought me thoughts on my own gems – my daughters.

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Learning from my child …or unlearning few things

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The usual lazy afternoons where I spend working as well watching my lil one play around is the common scenario, one might get to see as they come home.

My lil one, who is awaiting her sister to return from her school, forces me to be her game partner. But yes, All I have to do is just listen to her, focussing her, leaving no gap on attending to her words.

And, yes like an obedient mother,, I sit and listen to her, engrossed in her talks, which are sweeter than honey to me.

She was playing with her dolls, one of which was a joker, another one a boy baby and another one a girl baby. She was making up a story and enacting it to me, like a puppet show.

She said that the girl baby is cooking and the boy baby is sleeping all along. To my surprise, the sleeping feminism in me was shaken. I asked her curiously, why is that the boy baby is not doing anything. To this she gave me a weird smiling, telling me ” mama, the boy baby don’t know anything, he just eats“. It took me totally dumbstruck… what!!! what on earth made her think so… Is it my fault .. oh My !! Am I really bringing up another girl, showing her that none of the men works in the kitchen :P.

Immediately, I said ” No baby, you should ask the boy baby to wake up and help the girl baby in the kitchen. The boy baby doesn’t know anything, so the girl baby can teach him and slowly the boy baby will help the girl baby“.

She listened to every word I said carefully and immediately came to the boy baby, waking up from his deep slumber.

Ah! Finally, I saw that the boy baby and the girl baby are working together in the kitchen…

Seriously I felt a great Relief !!!

No words could explain that feeling.

Raising independent women is never easy, but never impossible. I just wish that everyone be it a boy or girl, work with a sense of responsibility towards their home equally.

We don’t want equality , but understanding and sharing. 

 

What do you do when your child demands a new toy? – Parenting muses

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It is being a long time, I penned something different.

Was monotonicity ever bothering me? 

No, never while I am writing my heart out.

Today, as I was skimming through my insta posts, which I check every five minutes out of curiosity, found a post asking for some honest answers from parents, ” What do you do if your child asks you for a new toy or something new that came in the shop? How do you go about handling the child then, if he/she demands? ” 

It was quite thought-provoking for me. I threw myself on to my chair, thinking deep and investigating my thoughts from every corner of my head. Finally, I found it quite interesting.

What would I do, if I was in such state? 

I would obviously buy it, as I can’t stand my child’s sad face. But is it really right… NO, A clean NO to it. Working on kids demands make them very stubborn and demanding, which is not a wise decision.

We as parents have brittle hearts than out kids, hence mostly, all parents like me, would be melting like ice on a hot day in front of those sweet faces.

But, to be a good parent. Stop melting.

As we are not doing it right. 

If a kid demands, make them understand, that spending a lot on Toys is never feasible. If they don’t try rewarding them . By rewarding, we keep them confident and feel responsible for what they do.

I guess that would be an ideal way to deal than arguing over unwanted things.

What do you say, my fellow friends? Pour in your suggestions. Let us all help each other in making life smoother.

 

 

Being mom the second time is indeed a blessing

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I do recollect the time, when we were waiting for your arrival, the long wait ended today three years back, when we added one more flower to our family garden.

I do recollect the time, when your sister waited keenly keeping her ears closer to my belly, to feel you,

you were welcomed with great smiles and warm hands

You came and conquered our lives with your naughty smile and impressive eyes

Time is running faster, out of my hands.

yet am falling in love with every moment

You brought a different perspective to my life. You gave me challenging perspective of parenting, giving me a touch of all the different levels of tantrums from low to high.

The way you held me closer to yourself whenever you loved me

the way you hug me and kiss me

showering all your love

making me feel special

expressing every tiny bit of emotion you tiny heart and eyes could hold

the way you need me all the time, doing everything to grab my attention

the way you put together all your naughtiness and love mixed up in a smile

Oh, my lovely little girl, you make me fall in love with my life of being a mom a little more than everyday

You managed to deviate my parenting goals to fit into your perspectives and impress me that I have done right for you

The mother in me is all awake for you, loving you more and more every second

The feeling of being blessed to be an angel’s mom is my gratitude

I wish I could hold the time, and cuddle you forever like this.

I know it’s easy for you to convince me of anything…with your naughty smile

oh, my darling, who changed the perspective of me being a mom, including challenges worth taking …at times making it a precious moment to cherish.

I love being your mother too…as I loved being a mom for the first time

Thank you for being my daughter who added more colors to my life, along with your sister.

Your sister woke up the mother in me and you revived the soul in me

helping me relive every moment again being a mother.

Happy Birthday my lil Angel

Parenting is sharing responsibilities

Everything you do for your child should be done together.

The beauty of doing it together makes the sharing and caring double and the child benefits from the love of his/her parents. The child who is loved truly by the parents are the happiest ones. The confidence and the positiveness that the child projects is the complete evidence of the love in the family.

Childcare is not only a woman’s responsibility. Parenting is not a task done by a mother alone. A father and mother have equal responsibility. We have so far gone through many cases where only the woman is directed to do, and the men become the bread winner. Little do they realize that childcare is supposed to be a sharing responsibility.

The growing cases of postpartum depression are mainly due to the increasing negligence of the men to help their spouse to handle a newcomer in the family. People think a woman can handle the responsibility of a mother, but everyone needs a helping hand.

Actually, a woman should stop pretending for being some super woman . I am tired of being watching the super woman ads in the TVs. Throwing a different ideology. Why can’t girls be normal, do things what they like than being a super nova or something?

I guess I need to teach my kids to take it slow and live a stress-free life. Every kid should be taught to do the same, be happy and be content with what they are . Parenting is the one way to usher that, When both parents work together to help their own child, the child understands that for everything a man and the woman has to shoulder each other rather than compete.

We are not in the world of competing for each other to be a great mom or a great dad. No one is perfect ,so sharing the responsibility will improve the bonding of the family rather than breaking it and make it appear like a race. And finally, the stressed out family points fingers at each other.

To have a better life, everyone needs to share responsibilities rather than burdening one person. It’s the same with sharing your expenses in the family too , helping your man to earn well and save rather than stress in their jobs too.